4 easy ways to support someone with depression

Depression is a mood disorder that causes persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness and lack of interest. Unsurprisingly, it can be devastating for the person with the disorder. However, friends and family members may also be impacted. If someone you love is suffering from depression, keep these four things in mind.

1. Don’t take symptoms personally
Depression makes it difficult to connect with people, even loved ones. If a person with depression lashes out at you or says hurtful things, remember that it’s the illness talking.

2. Be a compassionate listener
Be someone that listens without judgment. Instead of telling a depressed person to “cheer up” or “snap out of it,” try saying “I’m here for you,” “I want to help” and “you’re not alone in this.”

Many people worry about discussing their depression for fear of stigmatization or being hospitalized. However, talking openly with a non-judgmental listener has been shown to be beneficial.

3. Guide them toward professional help
Encourage your loved one to find a therapist or psychiatrist and consider treatment options like medication. Offer to go with them to the first appointment or help prepare a list of symptoms to discuss with a professional.

4. Don’t try to fix them
Do what you can to guide a person with depression toward the right resources, but remember that it’s not up to you to cure them. Recovery is ultimately their own responsibility. Focus instead on being a positive presence in their life.

Finally, make sure to look after your own health when caring for someone with depression. It may be helpful to talk with a family member, friend or mental health professional about what you’re going through.