Learn how to be ‘lucky’ in life

If it seems like other people get more lucky breaks than you do, it’s time to figure out why. Some clues:

* They have that can-do attitude and feel they can grab onto an opportunity when it comes their way. They expect to be winners.

* Lucky people enjoy talking to strangers. They smile and say “hello.” Other people’s stories can be enlightening and may result in friendship or beneficial contacts, says Keith Ferrazzi in his book Never Eat Alone.

* Notice that they keep their options open instead of having a single-minded devotion to one goal. They, and you, have more options than you think.

* The lucky ones build strong relationships at work that help to bring them success. Their social network outside work is a source of information and of support in difficult times.

* Getting more luck involves saying “yes” when you’d rather say “no.” Say yes to serving on committees, running for office or working for charities.

* Always do your best work even if you think the task is unimportant. You’ll get a reputation as the go-to person.

* Practice “counter-factual” thinking. The degree to which you think something is fortunate or not is the degree to which you will generate alternatives. The unlucky person is distraught over having a car accident, for example. The lucky person is thankful that he wasn’t killed, and makes friends with the other driver and people at the scene of the accident.

* Taking calculated risks can increase your good luck. Lucky people always want something new. They try new things, go to new places or take on work outside of their comfort zone.

* Enjoy yourself and have a balanced life. Maintain good relationships, explore a satisfying hobby and make physical fitness a priority.

Try to do most of these things and continue to help others. Good luck will come to you.