How to react if your teen lies to you

Though it’s normal for young people to fib, it can be upsetting to realize your child is making up stories. Here’s a look at how to react if your teen lies to you.

The first thing to consider is why your teen has lied. Is it because they’re afraid to disappoint you? Do they want to avoid being punished? Are they going through something they’re ashamed of?

It’s also important to reflect on the parenting style you want to use before you confront your teen. For example, if you treat them like a child, refuse to let them make their own choices, or punish them too harshly, your young adult is more likely to break the rules and continue to hide things from you.

In order to maintain a healthy relationship with your teen, you need to model an open and honest approach to communication. In particular, be sure to provide explanations for the rules you establish (prioritizing homework, weekday bedtimes, etc.), as this will increase the likelihood that your teen will respect and follow them.

Additionally, give your teen the opportunity to express their opinion about the rules, and be open to negotiating reasonable changes. If your teen feels like you respect their point of view, they’re more likely to tell you the truth.

Did you know?
There are two types of lies: prosocial and antisocial. Prosocial lies are told for someone else’s benefit, either to protect them or make them happy. Antisocial lies, however, are motivated by personal gain.